November 24 2018
Hey guys it’s me again. Today I’m coming at you with probslems that’ll hopefully turn into solutions. Also known as my usual content. Because I don’t have anything interesting to say I’m just gonna into it and hope to god my boyfriend doesn’t read this. Lol
Anyway, so my boyfriend keeps telling me that he can’t talk because he’s doing something. And I’m like okay that’s cool you’re a busy person we can talk when you’re not doing anything. Now before you start the whole don’t be clingy thing, there is more to this story. So he’ll tell me that he’s doing somethings and pretty always he tells me what he’s doing. And the. Like twenty minutes to three hours later he’ll tell me that he’s “so sorry he couldn’t talk” and tell me that he was doing something completely d from what he’d originally told me. And I trust him and I believe that he wouldn’t do anything to hurt me. But do you see the issue that prompts this post. No? Okay I’ll explain it. So I’m prone to overthinking things, like many other people, and whenever he tells me he’s doing something that seems a little off my first thought (and yes I know this is bad) is that he’s lying to me. I start overthinking things and my mind goes to drugs or cheating and pretty much anything that a person can do. And then I think “no that’s not what’s happening because he told me what he’s doing and obviously he wouldn’t lie to me” and I do something else to distract myself. Then he’ll text me later and be all apologetic and stuff and say that he was doing something completely different from his previous excuse. And my mind immediately goes to thinking “that son of a b-“. And then I start thinking “I’ve done things to him so I can’t be mad if he goes out to do similar things against me. It’s only fair”. And then I get depressed and start looking for something in the world that can make me happy. If you’ve been through this then you might know the struggle of confronting someone about stuff like this. Unless you’re stronger than me and can actually do that without constant overthinking. In that case you’re my hero and I applaud you. If you are like me, then you know that this is a difficult situation. To be in this situation, it must be a person who you love or at least care about. You most likely don’t to lose them and you don’t know what to say. So you overthink things and wonder what’s so wrong with you that would cause this. And then you feel broken or more broken then you were when you started. I understand. I mean I can’t even make a stupid sarcastic comment about like I would normally do because I’m so afraid of messing stuff up. Here’s the thing. You have to say something about it. You have to let the person know how you feel if for nothing else, to put your mind at ease. It’s not good for someone to put so much stress on themselves. You have to say something. Even if what you were thinking was true, it’s better to know now than to find out later when it could destroy you even more. I know it sucks but it has to be done. You can’t let things like this build.
I know this was short but thanks for reading. I love you guys so much but now I gotta go make a sarcastic comment in hopes of getting my feelings out. Love you. See you real soon. ❤️❤️